Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Gift of Hope

Musician Tony Melendez was born in Nicaraqua without arms.
At age 16,he learned playing guitar.
People told him that it was not possible.
He met Pope and played him guitar.Pope called him "Gift of Hope".
He is a wonderful Gift!

See him playing and enjoy!Anything is possible!



Tony's story in his own words:


Thanks to Aine Belton of Manifesting Secrets
for referring this great video!

Monday, December 8, 2008

VALIDATION-THE POWER OF SMILE

Today,i have seen a short film in youtube.It was referred by Rebecca of certainway.
It is a beautiful movie about the power of smile.It is awesome,see it yourself and enjoy!

Description in youtube:

"Validation" is a fable about the magic of free parking. Starring TJ Thyne & Vicki Davis. Writer/Director/Composer - Kurt Kuenne. Winner - Best Narrative Short, Cleveland Int'l Film Festival, Winner - Jury Award, Gen Art Chicago Film Festival, Winner - Audience Award, Hawaii Int'l Film Festival, Winner - Best Short Comedy, Breckenridge Festival of Film, Winner - Crystal Heart Award, Best Short Film & Audience Award, Heartland Film Festival, Winner - Christopher & Dana Reeve Audience Award, Williamstown Film Festival, Winner - Best Comedy, Dam Short Film Festival, Winner - Best Short Film, Sedona Int'l Film Festival.


Thursday, December 4, 2008

Tell them they are special,Tell them Now!

One day Maths teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name.

Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down.

It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.

That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual.

On Monday she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. 'Really?' she heard whispered. 'I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!' and, 'I didn't know others liked me so much,' were most of the comments.

No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on.

Several years later, one of the students was killed in 'Kargil' war and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never attended Funeral of a serviceman before. He looked so handsome, so mature.

The place was packed with his friends. One by one those who loved him took a last walk. The teacher was the last one to bless.

As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her. 'Were you Sanjay's math teacher?' he asked. She nodded: 'yes.' Then he said: 'Sanjay talked about you a lot.'

After the funeral, most of Sanjay's former classmates were there. Sanjay's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher.

'We want to show you something,' his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket 'They found this on Sanjay when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it.'
Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Sanjay's classmates had said about him.

'Thank you so much for doing that,' Sanjay's mother said. 'As you can see, Sanjay treasured it.'

All of Sanjay's former classmates started to gather around. Arjun smiled rather sheepishly and said, 'I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home.'

Prithwiraj's wife said, ' Prithwiraj asked me to put his in our wedding album.'

'I have mine too,' Rashmi said. 'It's in my diary'

Then Deepali, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. 'I carry this with me at all times,' Deepali said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: 'I think we all saved our lists'

That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Sanjay and for all his friends who would never see him again.

The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day will be.

So please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are special and important. Tell them, before it is too late.

Thanks to my friend SriVidya to share this wonderful story.

SAND and STONE

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert.

During some point of the Journey they had an argument, and one friend

Slapped the other one in the face.

The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.



They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath.

The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning,

But the friend saved him.

After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.


The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you,

you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied "When someone hurts us we should write it down

in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away.

But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone

where no wind can ever erase it."

LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND
TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE!!!

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.

WHO you have in your life!
“Happiness is not something you find, it's something you create"
Thanks to Rekha for sharing this beautiful story.

Sunday, September 28, 2008

5-Steps to get whatever you want

I read a book "Spiritual Marketing" by Joe Vitale.
It is a wonderful little ebook with amazing content.
The title itself is so contrasting and so matching.
It is giving the secret to get whatever you want.It outlines the following 5-steps:

1.Know what you don’t want.
2. Select what you do want.
3. Clear all negative or limiting beliefs.
4. Feel what it would be like to have, do, or be what you
want.
5. Let go. Act on your intuitive impulses and allow the
results to manifest.

Joe talks about limiting beliefs and clearing them.
He talks about so many amazing spiritual things which is compelling but normally no one would initially believe.Joe gives so many stories and his real life experiences about these miracles.
Joe explains the miracle happened in his own life on how he became so rich from a very humble beginning.
He is into energy healing,inner healing,clearing blocks of energy,totally a whole new world for a common man.

It has lot of wonderful quotations about prosperity,beliefs,law of attraction.

It is a great book,a must read.
Get your free ebook copy at:
Spiritual-Marketing

Saturday, September 27, 2008

Making Money-Greatest Secret

I read a wonderful book on Money on today,'The Greatest Money making secret' by Best Selling Author,Joe Vitale.
So what is the greatest secret to make money?
Simple.
Give away Money!
Yes,Give money to get money!
It is the Law of Reciprocity(Giving and Receiving).
It has an introduction 'Power of Giving' by John Harricharan.
It has articles on Giving by guest authors like Mandy Evans,John Milton Fogg,Dr. Robert Anthony,Bob Burg,John Zappa,Susie and Otto Collins,Christopher Guerriero,Richard Webster,Larry Dotson,Mike Litman,Allen D’Angelo,Jo Han Mok.
Give away money freely not expecting anything.
I set up an online a/c with one of my favorite charities in india at:
Helpinghands
run by Vidyagar.I started donating for this from 2005 on special occasions like birthdays,wedding days.I checked on today,it has grown into a sizable amount.It gave me feeling of satisfaction and gratitude.
This is just one of the way of giving.

Follow your heart,give away freely.
If you want money,give away money!
If you want Love,give away Love!
If you want Books,give away Books!

Happy Giving!

Get this amazing ebook free at:

Greatest Money Making Secret

Sunday, September 14, 2008

What is Your Money Blueprint?

I have seen the presentation of T. Harv Eker of "Secrets of Millionaire Mind" fame.
Youtube is a goldmine and i found the treasure.It is his intensive seminar videos.They are 60 minutes of pure gold.
Relax and enjoy!













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Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Time Management and Productivity

I watched a great video by Eben on Time management and increase personal productivity in his blog.
Wonderful ideas for personal success which lead to your overall success.

Eliminate the following:
1.Eliminate Multi-Tasking.
2.Eliminate Distraction.
3.Eliminate Interruption.

Have a Clear Focus.

Have a great first hour of the morning before you start working:
1.Drink lot of water first thing in the morning.
2.Do some exercising.
3.Do little meditation.
4.Read some inspiring material for 10 minutes.
5.Eat a great,Healthy Breakfast.

"Time Management is a Misnomer;the challenge is to manage ourselves"-Stephen Covey.

Enjoy the video here at:

Time Manegement and Productivity by Eben

Saturday, September 6, 2008

Niagara Trip

Travel makes you refreshed,gain more energy,makes your life invigorated.
It gives you the much needed break from the routine,stressed out life.
It expands your view about the world.your mind becomes so relaxed,you will become more creative and get back to whatever you are doing more excited.
Last week,we went to Niagara,Pittsburg,Baltimore for the long weekend.

We went to Balaji Temple in Pittsburg.This is my third trip to the temple.Lot of crowd on saturday.Very nice Darsan,God looked so beautiful.Delicious food(pongal,idly,sambar rice).
Myself standing before the Temple gopuram:




From there,we went to Niagara around 4pm in the afternoon.This is my 4th trip to Niagara.You will get excited on every trip.Again huge crowd for the long weekend.Lot of couples everywhere.I really missed my family.Once they are in around october last week,i have to make another trip.We went to Maid of the mist by boat.It was an exciting experience.We became almost drenched.The Boat went very close to the falls.The full view of the falls is breathtaking.It is a really a Nature's Gift we shouldn't miss.
Here are some snaps:









We had a nice Samosa chat as a snack.Around,8pm,we started to Baltimore.Sunday morning,we went to Maryland Siva Vishnu Temple.We had a nice darsan and very nice tiffin.(Poori,chenna,tea).
From there,we went to Baltimore Harbor.Baltimore has a nice downtown.Harbor has lot of ship tours.Lot of sea food restaurants.We has a delicious Milk Shake,had a walk around the harbor.Very nice views,lot of boats around.
Here are some of the snaps in front of the ships:




It was a great Trip and we enjoyed it.I want to travel the world.Hope i will do it very soon with my family.
Travel more and be free!

Thursday, August 21, 2008

The Law of Giving

The Law of Giving

In every seed is the promise of thousands of forests. But the seed must not be hoarded; it must give its intelligence to the fertile ground. Through its giving, its unseen energy flows into material manifestation.

The more you give, the more you will receive, because you will keep the abundance of the universe circulating in your life. In fact, anything that is of value in life only multiplies when it is given. That which doesn.t multiply through giving is neither worth giving nor worth receiving. If, through the act of giving, you feel you have lost something, then the gift is not truly given and will not cause increase. If you give grudgingly, there is no energy behind that giving.

It is the intention behind your giving and receiving that is the most important thing. The intention should always be to create happiness for the giver and receiver, because happiness is life-supporting and life-sustaining and therefore generates increase. The return is directly proportional to the giving when it is unconditional and from the heart. That is why the act of giving has to be joyful . the frame of mind has to be one in which you feel joy in the very act of giving. Then the energy behind the giving increases many times over.

Practicing the Law of Giving is actually very simple: if you want joy, give joy to others; if you want love, learn to give love; if you want attention and appreciation, learn to give attention and appreciation; if you want material affluence, help others to become materially affluent.

Infact, the easiest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want. This principle works equally well for individuals, corporations, societies, and nations. If you want to be blessed with all the good things in life, learn to silently bless everyone with all the good things in life.

The best way to put the Law of Giving into operation - to start the whole process of circulation - is to make a decision that any time you come into contact with anyone, you will give them something. It doesn.t have to be in the form of material things; it could be a flower, a compliment, or a prayer. In fact, the most powerful forms of giving are non-material. The gifts of caring, attention, affection, appreciation, and love are some of the most precious gifts you can give, and they don.t cost you anything.

When you meet someone, you can silently send them a blessing, wishing them happiness,joy, and laughter. This kind of silent giving is very powerful.

One of the things I was taught as a child, and which I taught my children also, is never to go to anyone.s house without bringing something . never visit anyone without bringing them a gift. You may say, .How can I give to others when at the moment I don.t have enough myself?.

You can bring a flower. One flower. You can bring a note or a card which says something about your feelings for the person you.re visiting. You can bring a compliment. You can bring a prayer.

Make a decision to give wherever you go, to whomever you see. As long as you.re giving,you will be receiving. The more you give, the more confidence you will gain in the miraculous effects of this law. And as you receive more, your ability to give more will also increase.

- Deepak Chopra

Thanks to N.Ganesan for sharing this.

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Saturday, August 16, 2008

This Too Shall Pass

This week was a tough week for myself and my family.
My wife's father passed away because of massive heart attack.
He had angioplasty a month ago,had some more blocks in two valves.
Doctor advised that he was doing fine,we could do bypass surgery after a month or so.
Unfortunately,he passed away suddenly.
My wife was so upset,i couldn't console her.
We were away for almost 7 months now as i don't have a longterm project.
I spoke to her for half hour or so on last saturday morning.After 10 minutes,her brother called up conveying the message.
It was literally a shock.
Last december only,we constructed a new house,he was helping all along for the housewarming function,now he is no more.
Life is wiping out lives just like a duster in the black board within minutes.
Life knocks us down just like a rock on the forehead.
There is no more person by that name living in that body,just a vaccum.
We have to tell our kid that his grandpa went to live with God.
He is getting so confused that there is no grandpa suddenly,only a picture with a frame.
Till now,my soul is crying,even after a week.

Death reminds us always how uncertain our presense here and we have to have a purpose and fulfill it.Even if one is a king of a kingdom,he can't take away anything,not even a tiny needle.

I remember the book "Tough times never last last,but tough people do" by Dr.by Robert H. Schuller.
It is a great book on how to overcome tough times.
He was narrating his kid's difficult times with health problems.
This book tells us on how he was able to build a million dollar cathedral from scratch.It tells us how his son was able to get a land and constructed his own cathedral after much difficulty.

It is a great read and gives us ways to survive tough times.

I turned to God,i went to the nearest temple in Newjersey on thursday and cried and let my burden melt away in sprituality and asked for strength.
I strongly believe that we can overcome tough times.
"This too shall pass".

Grab a copy of this classic book here at:

Monday, August 4, 2008

Free Ebook - The Genius within you

The Genius within you by Steve Martile

I read a wonderful,little ebook by Steve Martile.
Steve is the founder and creator of freedom education.
His purpose is:
To Teach and Inspire others to love and live by following their hearts desires.

This book is about finding yourself as socrates said : "Know Thyself".
It gives simple steps:
1.Develop Awareness.
2.Expand your current reality.
3.Do what naturally comes to you and what you love to do.
4.Lead your life from with-in.
5.Use your inner compass to direct your life.
6.Have a purpose statement.
7.Play the game of your life with fun.

It is very thin in pages but heavy in content.I read twice continuously to grasp the message fully.
The cover and sketches are really nice.
Wonderful insights.
Highly recommended.
Grab your free copy here:
TheGeniuswithinyou

Sunday, August 3, 2008

Love has no barrier

Love makes us more human.Love is pure and makes us pure.
If we have unconditional love,we become divine.

We are three brothers in our family.We had a dog when we were young.We named it as "Mani".
We liked it very much,we played with it,we enjoyed each others company.we grew up with each other.He became big and getting older.

Mani protected our field from other intruders and other animals,thieves into our field.One day he came to home with lot of blood in his mouth.He might have eat a sheep or something.He was dull for some days.He became sick for quite sometime.We showed him to the local veternary doctor who gave him some medicines.But one day,he was dead.

We cried like anything,like lost a family member.We couldn't bear the loss of our friend.We raised a small temple in stone where he was buried.We used to pray every weekend by burning camphors and scented sticks.

I can remember that scene of prayer even now.Even today,if we meet in our field for festivals or family get together,we remember him and we used to tell about Mani to other relatives and friends.

In 1969,two friends John Rendall and Ace Berg,raised a lion cub which weighed 35 pounds.They named him as Christian.They were very happy friends.

Within one year christian had grown into 185 pounds.They felt that they couldn't keep him anymore.They came to know about a conservationist by name George Adamson in kenya.
Soon christian got rehabilitated and set free wild in kenya.
In 1974,the friends wanted to see christian one last time.Adamson doubted weather christian would found them as he became wild.Somehow christian came near Adamson's camp.See the following video when the friends met:



Thanks to Barry and Heather of
Life without Limits

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Free Ebook - The 3 C's of Success

The 3C'S of Success by Mitch W Steel

I read an ebook by Mitch W. Steel of WWW.SUCCCESS.ORG

It is a great book teaching the fundamentals needed to become successful.
It contains wonderful quotes from great people.
There are three sections teaching each of the C's.
The 3 C's are:
1.Creativity.
2.Character.
3.Completion.
His definition of success is "Creating your ideal future".

Creativity:
We are creative by nature.As we grow older,we forgot to be creative.
There are two forms of creativity,as per Mitch:
1.Synthetic Imagination.
2.Creative Vision.

By asking right questions,we can rekindle our creativity.
By being creative,we can design our life.
Define what is success for you,Create your ideal future and then just do it.
Purpose + creativity gives value.

Character:
He puts so much emphasis on character as it is like the pillar of your life.
Without character,we are seeing so many celebrities are falling down in real life.
They might have made lot of money,but they are not considered successful in life as they lack character.
Here are some of his thoughts on character:
1.Keep learning and try to improve your character traits.
2.Shed your ego.Let it go.
3.Accept full responsibility.
4.Begin to do things differently if they are not yielding the desired results.
5.Be Aware of the process.
6.Appreciate Time-Value.
7.Celebrate tiny accomplishments.
8.Have attention and focus on your goals.
9.Have your Master Belief Records right.
10.Expect to succeed always.
11.Have consistent and persistent action.
12.Use models for inspiration.
13.Aware of your thoughts.
14.You need every one's help in order to succeed.
15.Have a Master mind group.
16.Choose Happiness.
17.Don't ever Quit.
18.Health is the first wealth.


Completion:
He wants us to Realize the significance of completion and remain commited to it.
Here are his thoughts for completion:
1.Have the conviction to follow through and complete whatever you have started.
2.Have the courage to persevere and finish.
3.Fuse together Potential energy and release kinetic energy.
4.Get rid of fear(False Evidence Appearing Real-Zig Zaglar).
5.Your life is a miracle.
6.Find motivation through regret.
7.Battle your excuses endlessly.
8.Keep your vision quiet.
9.Failure is the prerequisite for success.
10.Opposite of succeess is not failure,it is Hopelessness.

It is a wonderful little ebook full of inspiration.
There is no cover graphics and pictures inside.
"Each page has a watermark - "Do Not Copy" this is only on the current free version( available now) and shows he is very concerned about distributed copies PRE-release of the published book.
I highly recommend reading this.

Grab your free copy here:
Free Success Ebook

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Become a Banker

Yes,You can become a banker too.
Lend your helping hand and help an entrepreneur.
Visit : Kiva
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God has always been planning things for me

An inspiring story of a boy...who made it big from remote village of AP,India...with no legs....we search for reasons to cover our failures... he searched for opportunities only to show world there are ways to beat the challenges of life....


Naga Naresh Karutura has just passed out of IIT Madras in Computer Science and has joined Google in Bangalore. You may ask, what's so special about this 21-year-old when there are hundreds of students passing out from various IITs and joining big companies like Google?
Naresh is special. His parents are illiterate. He has no legs and moves around in his powered wheel chair. (In fact, when I could not locate his lab, he told me over the mobile phone, 'I will come and pick you up'. And in no time, he was there to guide me) Ever smiling, optimistic and full of spirit; that is Naresh.
He says, "God has always been planning things for me. That is why I feel I am lucky." Read why Naresh feels he is lucky.
Childhood in a village I spent the first seven years of my life in Teeparru, a small village in Andhra Pradesh, on the banks of the river Godavari. My father Prasad was a lorry driver and my mother Kumari, a house wife. Though they were illiterate, my parents instilled in me and my elder sister (Sirisha) the importance of studying.
Looking back, one thing that surprises me now is the way my father taught me when I was in the 1st and 2nd standards. My father would ask me questions from the text book, and I would answer them. At that time, I didn't know he could not read or write but to make me happy, he helped me in my studies!
Another memory that doesn't go away is the floods in the village and how I was carried on top of a buffalo by my uncle. I also remember plucking fruits from a tree that was full of thorns. I used to be very naughty, running around and playing all the time with my friends.
I used to get a lot of scolding for disturbing the elders who slept in the afternoon. The moment they started scolding, I would run away to the fields! I also remember finishing my school work fast in class and sleeping on the teacher's lap!
January 11, 1993, the fateful day
On the January 11, 1993 when we had the sankranti holidays, my mother took my sister and me to a nearby village for a family function. From there we were to go with our grandmother to our native place. But my grandmother did not come there. As there were no buses that day, my mother took a lift in my father's friend's lorry. As there were many people in the lorry, he made me sit next to him, close to the door. It was my fault; I fiddled with the door latch and it opened wide throwing me out.
As I fell, my legs got cut by the iron rods protruding from the lorry. Nothing happened to me except scratches on my legs. The accident had happened just in front of a big private hospital but they refused to treat me saying it was an accident case. Then a police constable who was passing by took us to a government hospital. First I underwent an operation as my small intestine got twisted. The doctors also bandaged my legs. I was there for a week. When the doctors found that gangrene had developed and it had reached up to my knees, they asked my father to take me to a district hospital. There, the doctors scolded my parents a lot for neglecting the wounds and allowing the gangrene to develop. But what could my ignorant parents do?
In no time, both my legs were amputated up to the hips. I remember waking up and asking my mother, where are my legs? I also remember that my mother cried when I asked the question. I was in the hospital for three months.
Life without legs
I don't think my life changed dramatically after I lost both my legs. Because all at home were doting on me, I was enjoying all the attention rather than pitying myself. I was happy that I got a lot of fruits and biscuits.


'I never wallowed in self-pity'
The day I reached my village, my house was flooded with curious people; all of them wanted to know how a boy without legs looked. But I was not bothered; I was happy to see so many of them coming to see me, especially my friends! All my friends saw to it that I was part of all the games they played; they carried me everywhere.
God's hand I believe in God. I believe in destiny. I feel he plans everything for you. If not for the accident, we would not have moved from the village to Tanuku, a town. There I joined a missionary school, and my father built a house next to the school. Till the tenth standard, I studied in that school. If I had continued in Teeparu, I may not have studied after the 10th. I may have started working as a farmer or someone like that after my studies. I am sure God had other plans for me. My sister, my friend
When the school was about to reopen, my parents moved from Teeparu to Tanuku, a town, and admitted both of us in a Missionary school. They decided to put my sister also in the same class though she is two years older. They thought she could take care of me if both of us were in the same class. My sister never complained. She would be there for everything. Many of my friends used to tell me, you are so lucky to have such a loving sister. There are many who do not care for their siblings. She carried me in the school for a few years and after a while, my friends took over the task. When I got the tricycle, my sister used to push me around in the school.
My life, I would say, was normal, as everyone treated me like a normal kid. I never wallowed in self-pity. I was a happy boy and competed with others to be on top and the others also looked at me as a competitor. InspirationI was inspired by two people when in school; my Maths teacher Pramod Lal who encouraged me to participate in various local talent tests, and a brilliant boy called Chowdhary, who was my senior. When I came to know that he had joined Gowtham Junior College to prepare for IIT-JEE, it became my dream too. I was school first in 10th scoring 542/600.
Because I topped in the state exams, Gowtham Junior College waived the fee for me. Pramod Sir's recommendation also helped. The fee was around Rs 50,000 per year, which my parents could never afford. Moving to a residential schoolLiving in a residential school was a big change for me because till then my life centred around home and school and I had my parents and sister to take care of all my needs. It was the first time that I was interacting with society. It took one year for me to adjust to the new life. There, my inspiration was a boy called K K S Bhaskar who was in the top 10 in IIT-JEE exams. He used to come to our school to encourage us.
Though my parents didn't know anything about Gowtham Junior School or IIT, they always saw to it that I was encouraged in whatever I wanted to do. If the results were good, they would praise me to the skies and if bad, they would try to see something good in that. They did not want me to feel bad. They are such wonderful supportive parents.
Life at IIT- MadrasThough my overall rank in the IIT-JEE was not that great (992), I was 4th in the physically handicapped category. So, I joined IIT, Madras to study Computer Science. Here, my role model was Karthik who was also my senior in school. I looked up to him during my years at IIT- Madras. He had asked for attached bathrooms for those with special needs before I came here itself. So, when I came here, the room had attached bath. He used to help me and guide me a lot when I was here. I evolved as a person in these four years, both academically and personally. It has been a great experience studying here. The people I was interacting with were so brilliant that I felt privileged to sit along with them in the class. Just by speaking to my lab mates, I gained a lot.

'There are more good people in society than bad ones'
Words are inadequate to express my gratitude to Prof Pandurangan and all my lab mates; all were simply great. I was sent to Boston along with four others for our internship by Prof Pandurangan. It was a great experience. Joining Google R&DI did not want to pursue PhD as I wanted my parents to take rest now. Morgan Stanley selected me first but I preferred Google because I wanted to work in pure computer science, algorithms and game theory.
I am lucky.Do you know why I say I am lucky? I get help from total strangers without me asking for it. Once after my second year at IIT, I with some of my friends was travelling in a train for a conference. We met a kind gentleman called Sundar in the train, and he has been taking care of my hostel fees from then on.
I have to mention about Jaipur foot. I had Jaipur foot when I was in 3rd standard. After two years, I stopped using them. As I had almost no stems on my legs, it was very tough to tie them to the body. I found walking with Jaipur foot very, very slow. Sitting also was a problem. I found my tricycle faster because I am one guy who wants to do things faster. One great thing about the hospital is, they don't think their role ends by just fixing the Jaipur foot; they arrange for livelihood for all. They asked me what help I needed from them. I told them at that time, if I got into an IIT, I needed financial help from them.
So, from the day I joined IIT, Madras, my fees were taken care of by them. So, my education at the IIT was never a burden on my parents and they could take care of my sister's Nursing studies. Surprise awaited me at IIT.
After my first year, when I went home, two things happened here at the Institute without my knowledge. I got a letter from my department that they had arranged a lift and ramps at the department for me. It also said that if I came a bit early and checked whether it met with my requirements, it would be good. Second surprise was, the Dean, Prof Idichandy and the Students General Secretary, Prasad had located a place that sold powered wheel chairs. The cost was Rs 55,000. What they did was, they did not buy the wheel chair; they gave me the money so that the wheel chair belonged to me and not the institute.
My life changed after that. I felt free and independent. That's why I say I am lucky. God has planned things for me and takes care of me at every step.
The world is full of good peopleI also feel if you are motivated and show some initiative, people around you will always help you. I also feel there are more good people in society than bad ones.
I want all those who read this to feel that if Naresh can achieve something in life, you can too.
Thanks to my cousin Ramya for sharing this inspiring story.

Saturday, July 26, 2008

Free EBook - AYear of Change

AYearofChange by Peter Clemens

I read an EBook by Peter of thechangeblog on yesterday.
I am a regular reader of his blog for quite sometime.
The ebook is a compilation of his articles he wrote in his blog.
As i read these Articles earlier in his blog,it seems repetitive for me.
You feel close to him as he shares lot of his personal life in this ebook.
The Pictures in this ebook are great.

There are 5 sections:
1.Inspiration & Awareness.
2.Remix your day.
3.Change.
4.Blogging.
5.Self-Improvement.

The Articles in the section Awareness and Inspiration are Inspirational.
I like 24 Daily Habits Article in the Remix your Day section.
It really helps anyone who wants to have life changing habits.
In the section Change,the articles,
1.Feel the pain,Then make the change
2.The #1 way to shake up your life
3.If you want to change,Tell the Truth
are wonderful.
I don't know somehow i felt a deviation from the subject when he is talking about Blogging.
In the Self-Improvement section,
1.How to sell yourself
2.What are you doing that is different
are excellent articles.
There is no cover for this ebook.
It feels like a little too early to release this book as it contains only his articles he wrote in his blog.
It is a good attempt to start with.
I wish all the best for Peter to release his first book on Change very soon.
Get your free copy of this ebook at :

AYearofChange

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Wealthy Soul

I have seen a small video on Transformation.
It outlines the principles in the book "The 9 Insights of the wealthy soul" by
Dr.Michael Norwood.
These Universal Principles are true for any area in which you want transformation.
The 9 Insights are:

1.Insight
2.Timing
3.Patience
4.Surrender
5.Grounding
6.Balance
7.Growth
8.Evolution
9.Transformation

Watch the video at : 9 insights of the wealthy soul

I highly recommend this book.Grab your copy here:

Thursday, July 10, 2008

Present Reality Vs Alternate Reality

Today i have seen the lecture of Prof.SriKumar Rao @ Google.
It is a wonderful speech full of great ideas to transform your life.
Here are some of the things he is talking about:

1.Mental Chatter:
This is the internal mono;ogue we have all the time.It is mostly not useful and disfunctional.He advises us to rewrite it.

2.Mental Models:
These are the models without our knowledge we have in judging the world around us.
If we accept these and reconstruct them,it will be great for us.

3.'ME' centered Universe:
We are always living in me centered universe.whatever change comes,we are looking for what is in it for me.If we get rid of this,our life would be more meaningful and purposeful.

4.Present Vs Alternate Reality:
If you want a profound change in your life,Think about the Alternate Reality which we believe in and behave as if it is true,it will come to you.
Per Example,my Alternate Reality is to get a fulltime job instead of my current reality working as a consultant.

5.Passion:

Passion lies within you.Ignite it right now.

6.Gratitude:

Be Grateful for what you have,you will get more of it.

7.Fixing the world:

Don't always try to fix the world.If you fix the world between your ears,the outer world automatically fix itself.

8.Telling past stories:
Don't always tell yourself about past,useless stories.
Change them to positive,useful stories and rewrite your past.

9.Going on a journey:

Even if you are watching the TV shows "24" or "Desparate house wives",we are going through journies.
Whenever you go through them,ask yourself:
Do these journies help to go to the place where i want to spend time with.

Great Ideas.Thanks for sharing Rao.
Thanks to Tina of www.thinksimplenow.com where i got the link for prof Rao's speech.
I Recommend reading Rao's book "Are you Ready to Succeed?".
Enjoy the speech here:



Watch this inspirational movie 212:

212

Monday, July 7, 2008

Believe and Succeed

Yes,If you believe yourself and your abilities,you can succeed in anything in life.
Earl Nightingale said "Believe and Succeed"
I watched a video by Life Coach Jason and wanted to share with you.
It is a wonderful video with great content.
He is dealing with the fundamentals.
Regarding beliefs,he is advising us to find out our negative beliefs,question them,change the way we think,then march towards success.
A Simple,fundamental formula.

Regarding money,here is his formula:
Money = Value * Leverage

Give more to get more,so simple!

No wonder he named his video as : "SUCCESS FOREVER AND MONEY FORMULA"

Watch here at his blog:

http://www.findyourgreatness.com/blog/

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

The Power of a Dream

As a Kid we all had dreams,to become a pilot,to become a speaker,to become a writer,etc.But when we become grown up,we forget to dream and get into our daily grind.

Barrington Irving dreamed to become a pilot.Born in jamaica and raised in miami,florida,he became the youngest person and first african-american to fly solo around the world.

He got his passion when he was 15years old.He did odd jobs like washing flights by private jet owners for money to get flight lessons.He spoke in churches and schools about aviation.

His efforts were noticed by local community leaders and he got a scholarship and enrolled into florida memorial university to get academic and flight training.

In 2005,he founded a non-profit organization called Experience Aviation Inc., to help young people who pursue careers in aviation.

He was asking companies to sponsor him for his round-the-world dream,but no one came forward.So he started to ask for aircraft parts donation.He raised parts worth of $300,000 and asked columbia ,an aircraft manufacturer to build an aircraft for him.
Chevron came up with helping him with fuel.

On March23rd,2007 he started his journey around the world in his aircraft called "Inspiration".In june27th,2007,23 year old Barrington created history when he landed in miami,florida after his trip.

It is an inspiring journey for young people to leave their fear,dare to dream and reach for the stars.

Check out: http://www.experienceaviation.org/

Thanks to Wes Hopper's blog where i read Barrington's story.
Visit Wes Hopper's blog at: http://www.createsuccessseminars.com/blog/2007/03/power-of-vision.html

How to Meditate

Meditation gives you peace of mind and relieves stress.
Meditation gives clarity and focus,concentration.
Meditation enhances your spritual growth.
Meditation helps you to control your thoughts.

Here is a video on how to meditate:

Friday, June 20, 2008

How to succeed in Inter-personal Relations

I read the book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie.
This is the second time i am reading this book.It is a classic on its own merit.It is a Bible of Inter-personal relations.

Dale Carnegie was born in 1888 in Missouri,USA.He worked as a salesman and an actor.He started teaching communication classes to adults in YMCA.He wrote this historic book in 1936.He established his company Dale Carnegie & Associates Inc., in 1954.

This book contains simple,practical ideas in handling people.Its speciality is that it contains lot of real life examples.

Here are the things i learnt from this book:

Fundamental Techniques in handling people:

1.Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2.Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3.Arouse in the other person an eager want.


Six ways to make people like you:
1.Become genuinely interested in other people.
2.Smile
3.A Person's name is the most important to that person.
4.Be a good listener.Encourage others to talk.
5.Talk in terms of other person's interests.
6.Make the other person feel important.

12 ways to win people to your way of Thinking:

1.Avoid Arguements.
2.Respect other person's opinions.
3.If you are wrong,admit it.
4.Begin in a friendly way.
5.Get "yes,yes" from the other person.
6.Let the other person do the talking more.
7.Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8.See things from others point of view honestly.
9.Be sympathetic to other person's ideas and desires.
10.Appeal to nobler motives.
11.Dramatize your ideas.
12.Throw down a challenge.

9 Ways to be a Leader:

1.Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2.Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3.Talk about your own mistakes before talking about others.
4.Ask questions instead of orders.
5.Let the other person save the face.
6.Praise every improvement.
7.Give the other person a fine reputation.
8.Use encouragement.
9.Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

It is a great book to read again and again and follow it to become successful.

Visit: http://www.dale-carnegie.com

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Gift from GOD

She is amazing.She got a great voice.She is a musical gift from God.
She is Charice Pempengco from Phillipines.She is 15 years old.Her mother is also a singer.She told that she learnt the singing techniques from her mother.
Her mature voice,her passion for singing and her confident stage presense makes her unique.

She made to the final of a singing contest for a television show "Little Big Star season 1" in Phillipines(she sang "I will always love you" by Whitney Houston).
Her album was released in sweden.He won a singing contest in korea.Her song in youtube made her come to U.S and participate in Ellen show.Here is the video clip:


Monday, June 16, 2008

Think and Become Wealthy

I read the Book "Think and Grow Rich" yesterday.
This is my third time reading this book.
It is a self development classic.It is like a Bible to self improvement.
It sold over 15 million copies.

It was written by Napoleon Hill in 1937.He interviewed many successful people as per the request by the billionaire Andrew Carnegie,in all kinds of industries and profiled the reason for their success in this book.He spent 20 years to complete this project.This edition is Revised and expanded by Dr.Arthur R.Pell.
Dr.Arthur added the modern day success stories of men like Bill Gates,Stephen Spielberg,Arnold,Howard Shultz,Bruce Lee,etc.

He outlined the secret for success in this book which is "THINKING".
Everything starts with your thought which manifests in physical form later.

Here are the 13 steps to Riches:

1.Desire :
This is the starting point of all achievement.One should have a burning desire about what he wants.

2.Faith:
This is one of the fundamental character for success.Have faith in yourself,you can do whatever you want.

3.Autosuggestion:
This is one powerful method to program your sub-conscious mind about your goal.

4.Specialized Knowledge:
This is more necessary in this competitive world.Aquire specialized knowledge in whever field you are in.

5.Imagination:
This is a great tool to attain what one wants.Visualization is creating a picture in your mind about what one wants and leads to physical creation.Visualize vividly with very minute detail about what you want.

6.Organized Planning:
Without planning,one can't achieve he wants just by imagining and visualization.One should have a solid plan.

7.Decision:
This is one of the key traits of successful people.They will decide very quickly and change later if needed very slowly.

8.Persistence:
This is one of the most important characters needed to be successful.
Do your job,give sometime to manifest,you will get what you wanted.

9.Power of the Master Mind:
One can't do everything.Two minds are more powerful than one.
Form a group of master minds to achive your goal.

10.Mastery of Sex Transmutation:
Sex is one of the powerful stimuli to action.One shouldn't over indulge in sex.
Divert and Use this powerful energy to achive success.

11.The Subconscious Mind:

Subconscioud mind is very powerful.But it can be easily programmed.
It doesn't know the difference between Reality and Unreal.
Visualize and create mental pictures about what you want,hear about what you want,subconscious mind will help you to achieve it.

12.The Brain:

This is the broadcasting and Receiving station of thoughts.
So broadcast good thoughts and recive in return the good stuff.

13.The Sixth Sense:
The Gut feeling or instinct.This can be developed by contacting with Infinite Intelligence,by practicing meditation,spending a private time with oneself.

There is a whole chapter on overcoming our fears like poverty,criticism,ill health,loss of loved ones,old age,death.
Finally there is a chapter dedicated to avoid susceptibility to evil influences.

This is one of my all time favorites.Read this book again and again whenever you have time.This will lead you to the path of success and prosperity.

Visit: http://www.naphill.org

Watch this Inspirational Movie about Attitude:

The Power of Attitude

Friday, June 13, 2008

Back to Fundamentals

I have seen Nammalvar's interview with Gnani in Kumudam WebTv on today.
Nammalvar is a natural agriculture expert and Gnani is a celebrated journalist.
Here is my email to Gnani after watching the episode:

India is an Agricultural country.Unless we go back to our basics,there is no solution to food crisis.We have ten acres of land,five acres of which are cultivatable.My parents are still there looking after the lands in salem,Tamilnadu.

We find very tough to find people to work in our field.There are very few now to work in the fileds.All are migrating to cities to work for contruction,road pavement,moved to chennai,mumbai,kerala for betterment of life.

My friend Raju's village Kodur near chitoor in A.P.There are very few now doing agriculture there.Atleast one person is in Gulf countries from Kodur.Their parents and relatives are living with the bank interest from gulf money ignoring agriculture.

There is no ROI in agriculture anymore.My father is only spending every year
but he is not getting any return from agriculture as the rates are low,no rain,the wage for workers are very high.People are losing their hope on agriculture.Raw materials are highly priced,every farmer is always in debt.

Since there is no return every year,they can't payback agricultural loans.
The farmers who are not paying,susceptible to JAPTI from bankers,which is one of worse days of farmers life which i have seen once for my neighboring farmer.
Lot of lands are becoming either horticulture(growing broilers for meat and eggs)
or Prawn culture(growing fish).

Every land owner is forced to use tractors as there is a shortage of labour.
Farmers are so used to new farming that they forgot natural methods.

Unless government is going towards farmer helping policies and farmers are confident of doing agriculture again,there is very little hope now existing for agriculture in india where still lot of its majority population living in villages
and doing agriculture.

India needs self awareness from its people.They have to know their self worth.They need self confidence.

Then comes the fundamentals right,like Agriculture,Education(especially females),Health care,Poverty eradication.Every one should become productive without following politicians and cinema,without going after freebies,without going to Liquor shop.

If we follow vivekananda "ARISE,AWAKE,STOP NOT TILL THE GOAL IS REACHED",
India will emerge as world leader as it has the most younger population.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Why you won't need to board on a plane for conference

It is a Technology wonder.
It is called On-stage Telepresense which gives the participants, on stage experience while speaking to each other.It is a collaboration between cisco's Telepresence with Musion's 3D Holographic display technology which gives you a real-time virtual presentation.

Watch this video:

World’s first Live Holographic Video Feed from California, USA to Bangalore, India

http://www.musion.co.uk/Cisco_TelePresence.html

I came to know this from Guy Kawasaki's blog at : http://www.blog.guykawasaki.com/

You can wonder why this post in a self development blog,but this is one of the example of how much humans can achieve by thinking creatively and out of the box.

Habits of Effective People

I read "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen R. Covey recently.
Over 15 million copies of this book sold.

Stephen R. Covey is a respected Leadership Authority, Organizational consultant and Author.
He is the author of several acclaimed books like The 7 habits of highly effective people, First things first, principle-centered leadership, The 7 habits of highly effective family.

The seven habits are divided into three parts:

Part one: Private Victory

Habit 1 : Be Proactive

This habit is about principles of personal vision.

Habit 2 : Begin with the end in mind

This habit is about principles of personal Leadership.

Habit 3 : Put first things first

This habit is about principles of personal Management.

Part Two: Public Victory

Habit 4 : Think win/win

This habit is about principles of Interpersonal Leadership.

Habit 5 : Seek first to understand, then to be understood

This habit is about principles of Empathetic Communication.

Habit 6 : Synergize

This habit is about Creative Cooperation.

Part Three: Renewal

Habit 7 : Sharpen the Saw

This habit is about principles of Balanced Self-Renewal.

This book is very detailed, lot of research went into it.But it looks like a PH.D Thesis,so dry to read.Personal Improvement book should be easy to read and follow,this is my personal opinion.

Visit: http://www.stephencovey.com/

Sunday, June 8, 2008

11 Ways To Eat to a Healthy Life

Here are some of the eating habits to have a healthier life:

1.Drink Green Tea:

Less caffine,more healthy Anti-oxidants.
It will increase your metabolism.

2.Drink eight glasses of water:

Drink 8 glasses of water every day.Water purifies your body and helps in smooth excretion of toxins and wastes.It boosts your energy.

3.Eat a good breakfast:

Don't skip your breakfast.Eat a good,healthy breakfast.Since your body is fasting for a longtime,a good breakfast is vital to get back energy.

4.Eat early at night:

Eating early at night(try to make it 7pm) helps in good digestion,relaxed sleeping,less work for your body to digest.It is a very good tip for weight loss.
Eat less at night,take light food.

5.Eat lot of Fruits and Vegetables:

More colourful your food,more healthy you are.
Eat more fruits and green vegetables.They are the primary source of all vitamins and minerals,fiber our body needs.
You are less vulnerable to chronic diseases if you eat more fruits and vegetables.
Eating fruits and vegetables helps in weight management.
Visit: http://www.fruitsandveggiesmatter.gov/benefits/index.html

6.Eat in small portions:

Don't eat a full course meal at one time.Eat in small portions at a regular intervals.

7.Eat only when you are hungry:

Eating only when we feel hungry helps in easy digestion and weight management.

8.Cut down on SSO:

Cut down the amount of Salt, Sugar, Oil.Enough salt is already there in what we eat.Excess salt is very harmful for our body.More sugar leads to more weight.Oil is a good way to add more fat.

9.Say no to Fast Food:

Say no to fast food,they are fake foods as per Randy Gage.
They are not healthy.Spend some time to cook your own food.

10.Don't eat in hurry:

Don't eat in a hurry.This may seem to be impossible in this fast paced world,but it is practically possible.Chew your food,don't swallow it in a hurry.Chewing helps in good digestion.

11.Fast whenever possible:

Fasting is one of the powerful methods to clean up your body.
It gives more rest to your body.
It can be weekly once or monthly once as per one's own plan.
Drink lot of water,juice on the day of fasting.

"HEALTH IS WEALTH".
All the best for good Health!

Self Improvement Newsletters and Ezines

I have a long list of some wonderful newsletters.I enrolled in major self-improvement websites for receiving newsletters.They are really enriching my knowledge and they are like vitamins to my soul.
Here are some of the Best Newsletters:

1.Jim Rohn's Ezine:

This is one of the best ezines.Full of great stuff on personal development.
Articles by Jim Rohn and other authors,a moremost authority on self development,vitamins for minds by Jim,seminar details and book offers,etc.They have an affiliate program also.It is a weekly ezine.
Visit: http://www.jimrohn.com

2.Your Achievement Ezine:

As per the ezine:
Your Achievement Ezine is committed to helping our readers grow both personally and professionally by consistently applying time proven principles and ideas in areas such as time management, leadership, communication, sales, investment, marketing and goal setting from many of today's recognized authorities on success.

Free subscription to Your Achievement Ezine, have them send an email to subscribe@yoursuccessstore.com with Join in the subject.

Visit: www.yoursuccessstore.com

3.BrianTracy Newslatter:
A very useful newsletter from another leading figure in self development areana.
As per Brian,his newsletter:
It's my goal to help you achieve your personal and business goals faster than you ever imagined - and my newsletter is one powerful way I can help you.

My newsletters will help you connect with your goals. Each issue includes powerful techniques detailing exactly how you can succeed. Millions have succeeded using the information found in these newsletters - and now its time for you to succeed.

Visit: http://www.briantracy.com

4.Bob Proctor's Insights of the day:

It is one of the mails i eagerly open each day for its inspirational content.
As per the website:
Strat your day with apositive message to reflect upon.
Receive an uplifting quote monday through thursday and an inspirational story on friday.

Visit: http://www.bobproctor.com
http://www.insightoftheday.com

5.Denis Waitley Newsletter:

It is another newsletter full of great content.
As per Denis Waitley,his online newsletter:
My goal is to offer valuable, relevant, leading edge, and interesting content, with some innovative and refreshing differences from the other ezines and newsletters you may be receiving.

If you would like to subscribe, send an email to: subscribe@deniswaitley.com
Visit: http://www.deniswaitley.com

6.Dr.Wayne Dyer's enews:

This is one of the inspirational enews from the leading authority in self development dr.wayne dyer.

Visit: http://www.drwaynedyer.com

7.Seeds of Success:

It is a compact newsletter from the success magazine.
Small nuggets of self improvement tips like health tips,cool your temper.

Visit: http://www.successmagazine.com

8.Robin Sharma newsletter:

He is one of the leading leadership coach.
Independent Survey Puts Robin as #2 in the Top Ten List of Leadership Gurus: Leadershipgurus.net ranked Robin #2 of the top 10 leadership gurus in the world.
In a survey that went to over 22,000 business thinkers world-wide Robin was recognized for the originality of his ideas, his international impact and his presentation style.
This is a monthly newsletter,full of ideas on leadership and self development.
Visit: http://www.robinsharma.com

9.Steve Pavlina's newsletter:

This steve pavlina's personal insights newsletter.It is one of the more detailed newsletters which carry more indepth study on personal development.
His Articles are great.His Podcasts are awesome.
Visit: http://www.stevepavlina.com

There are so many other great newsletters on self improvement.It is an ocean,jump into it,you will enjoy!

How to Roll off graciously from a project

I am an IT Consultant working for 10 years,7 years in U.S.
I worked for major fortune 500 companies like AT&T, AOL, COMED, DUKE ENERGY, EDS.
I worked twice for Fairisaac.
I rolled off recently from a short term assignment.
Here are some of my Tips to Roll off graciously:

1.Finish off all your assignments.
2.If you think,if you can't be able to make it within 5pm on the last day,inform your supervisor well ahead.
3.Send a thank you mail to the entire team you worked with.
4.If your supervisor or team members are free in the last day,go for a team lunch.
5.Ask their permission to give their contact details for further reference.
6.Collect their business cards.
7.If you have a Linked-in(http://www.linkedin.com) a/c,ask for a Testimonial.
8.Hand over the laptop or other materials,remote access key,badge to the right person.
9.Cleanup your working space before you exit.
10.Clean up your computer if you stored any personal files.

After the Roll off,keep in touch with them,you never know,you may be called in again.
I got the opportunity twice so far with the same client based on good referral.
Hope these tips are useful.
All the best in your job search!

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Persuasive Public Speaking - How to Persuade Your Audience Through Public Speaking

Persuasive Public Speaking - How to Persuade Your Audience Through Public Speaking By Michael Lee

Want to enhance your persuasive public speaking skills? Perhaps you have already spoken before an audience, have given a great speech, have influenced them considerably to your point and have received a standing ovation a few times. Now you wish to improve that foundation you have in persuasive public speaking.

Here are three ways that can help you to become a more influential speaker.

One, body language. Majority of human communication is done nonverbally, and people commonly respond and understand it very well, having said that we primarily did not have formal education on nonverbal language. In order to effectively connect with your audience, mean what you're saying through nonverbal cues.

These include eye contact, hand gestures, pacing and the like to stress your words and statements. For instance, if you're trying to imply a very important point, you may point a finger up. If you're telling a story, pace a short distance citing you're bringing them to a certain point. You would be surprised what difference as an audience it would make if the speaker simply went through his speech purely verbal.

Two, study. Influence is your main concern when speaking before an audience so you have to know what you're talking about. You have to persuade them into considering the point that you're trying to make by citing facts, accepted truths and sources to show that your speech is actually based on something relevant.

Realize that there is no debate or an exchange between you and them so you have to be very mindful of every single aspect of your speech or they may find you stereotypical; or worse, they may see you contradicting your own statements. Do some research and be open about new ideas and opinions before speaking; this will further guide you how to be a more persuasive speaker.

Three, connection. Treat your audience, no matter how great or small in number, as your utmost concern. They are the reason you are speaking, so feel for them as if your message and efforts will be in vain if you cannot convince them to your point of view.

You have to create a link between you and your audience to successfully deliver your speech. This connection can be made through personal anecdotes, humor or even asking an audience to speak a little.

The goal is to be able to create feelings between you and your audience where they will know that it matters to you that they listen. This will be the basis for a smooth flow for the duration of the speech and probably the key to persuasion.

In a persuasive speech, you as the public speaker should know how to persuade and convince. The audience should be driven to a point of influence that your message will successfully be delivered and received. Repetition of ideas, facts and opinions will bring them to your point and positively boost your persuasive public speaking skills.


About the Author:

Michael Lee is the author of the highly-acclaimed How To Be An Expert Persuader... In 20 Days or Less. This power-packed course reveals mind-altering persuasion secrets to turbocharge your earnings, win lots of friends, captivate the opposite sex, and make anyone subconsciously like and trust you. If you want to easily and quickly persuade anyone to eagerly do anything you want,
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Monday, May 26, 2008

Take care of your parents,They are precious

This was narrated by an IAF pilot to IIT students during a Seminar on Human Relations:

Venkatesh Balasubramaniam (who works for IIT) describes how his gesture of booking an air ticket for his father, his maiden flight, brought forth a rush of emotions and made him (Venkatesh) realize that how much we all take for granted when it comes to our parents.

My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father had never traveled by air before, so Ijust took this opportunity to make him experience the same.

In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Jet Airways.The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air..

The excitement was very apparent on his face,waiting for the time of travel. Just like a school boy, he was preparing himself on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for a window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen.

He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things. As they were about to go in for the security
check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great deal to him.

When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me.But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life. Asa child, how many dreams our parents have made come true.

Without understanding the financial situation, we ask for cricket bats,dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they have catered to all our needs.

Did we ever think about the sacrifices they hadto make to accommodate many of our wishes? Did we ever say thanks for allthat they have done for us? Same way, today when it comes to our children,we always think that we should put them in a good school.

Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have to give the child the best, theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see whenthey were young. It is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.

Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they would have felt at those moments.

Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care needs to be given to our parents and elders. Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream.

I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes. Just because they are old does not mean that they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. They have wishes, too..

Take care of your parents. THEY ARE PRECIOUS.
Though the idea of living together with your parents,is indeed native to india alone,taking care of parents,respecting their feelings,are universal.
Thanks for my cousin Rekha for sharing this wonderful story!

How to Detect a Lie Through Body Language

How to Detect a Lie Through Body Language
By Michael Lee

Reading body language to detect a lie applies not just to ordinary people but even to professionals, as well. The police use it to determine if the person is guilty of a certain wrongdoing or not, teachers employ it to find out if the child really has or hasn't done his or her homework and parents apply it to find out if their teenagers really did go to a group study session as they said they would.

In the past, it seemed like reading body language to judge guilt may not have been in effect, at least in some cultures. Tribal groups of centuries back used to figure out if a native committed a crime using pain tests, such as dipping a hand in boiling water, walking on fiery coals, and others.

For instance, a native whose hand came out scalded after a dip in hot water is considered guilty at the time. Luckily, no such judging process exists anymore and we have the chance to disprove allegations by appearing in court and giving our statements. However, it may not be easy either, because it requires knowledge of reading body language signs.

Body Language Signs of Lying
How can you detect a lie through a person's teeth? There are several ways to tell. One is when the other person is unable to look you in the eye as he tells his lie. Thus, if you ask your partner if he has been cheating on you, you will know that something is amiss if he says he hasn't but looks elsewhere while he says so.

Of course, there are people who have perfected the art of lying that the eye test does not always work. Other indicators of lying include restless hands (that is, he keeps touching his face, his arms, fixing his clothes, or tinkering with something), ill timing of gestures (that is, his body language seems to be off-kilter and awkward), or increased defensiveness. A person who has been accused of lying gets rather anxious as he tries to disprove the allegation.

Here's another way you can also detect a lie. When you suddenly shift to another topic, he also shifts to a more comfortable and relaxed state. A person who lies will want to avoid talking about the tense subject as much as possible, so he will most definitely try to stay at the lighter topic and try to expand on that so that you will forget about the original issue.

Most people have lied one way or another in their life. In fact, lying has become part of human nature. Sometimes we have to tell lies in order to avoid hurting somebody else. As the saying goes, what the person doesn't know won't hurt him. However, if discovering the truth is what you're after, then these tips on how to detect a lie will help you find out if you're being duped or not.

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Persuasion Tactics in a Person-to-Person Setting

Persuasion Tactics in a Person-to-Person Setting
By Michael Lee

Persuasion is easier to apply during a conversation between two people, as opposed to communicating in front of a group. This is because in a person-to-person setting, the opportunity to better understand the point of view of the other party exists. You can nitpick and delve into every single detail, as opposed to speaking to an audience, where the interaction is usually one sided.

In this kind of setting, it is possible for you and the other person to reach a compromise that would bring the best probable value for both of you. You may even want to change your stance while you're at it. In short, person-to-person conversations are so open and flexible that it allows not just you to change course, but also allow you to alter another person's mindset.

How do you get the most out of person-to-person interactions?

Have Patience

Persuasion may not happen on your first try - or even the second, the third, or the fourth. There are times that a certain idea has to be pondered on and assessed more deeply and critically, that to be too aggressive in getting acceptance might only ruin chances of a good deal. We've been through this situation before. How many times have we been told, "If you try to push me one more time, I will have to turn you down"?

Effective persuasion requires skill, not annoying pushiness. If you are sensitive enough to know the symptoms of agreement or submission, you will be able to steer the conversation to a point where you have the opportunity to persuade. If the other party doesn't seem to be leaning toward your idea and his or her body language shows it, then you should know better to try at another time instead.

Stop Yourself From Rebutting Too Much

One of the greatest mistakes of persuasiveness is your penchant to answer back and rebut. We often try to pretend to listen to another person's idea, which we do not really agree to, when in fact, what we are doing is preparing for a rebuttal to his or her statements. No matter how discreet you try to be at this, the other party will eventually notice that you are zoned out and will do the same to you when it's your turn to give your ideas.

What ensues is a discussion that has two levels: one that is verbal and obvious, and one that is based on underlying meanings and subliminal banter. You may be able to prove your point and so will the other person, but nobody really wins.

Nobody can successfully persuade if the conversation is just based on a subliminal battle. When you're trying to sell something, this will be your deal killer. In a friendship, this is what will burn bridges. This habit is very undesirable. Try to stop yourself every time you feel inclined to do so.

To effectively persuade another person, you have to truly believe in what you are saying. Intellectual honesty and genuine concern for other people will give you that persuasive edge. If you don't feel passionate enough, the other party will notice it and will not be convinced. It's not likely that you will be able to successfully sell an idea you have feel no passion about.

In addition, you can't be effective at persuasion if you are not open to being persuaded also. Remember, you're not the only one who is trying to get your point heard. In a person-to-person setting, the other party is also seeking to win you over to his or her side.

In order to persuade, you must be sincere. Aside from that, you also need to effectively communicate your emotions and thoughts. You can do this not just by saying the right things, but also by employing the proper assertive behavior and body language. Thus, if you want to improve your persuasion skills, don't be a drag. Be open-minded and show it.


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Michael Lee is the author of the highly-acclaimed How To Be An Expert Persuader... In 20 Days or Less. This power-packed course reveals mind-altering persuasion secrets to turbocharge your earnings, win lots of friends, captivate the opposite sex, and make anyone subconsciously like and trust you. If you want to easily and quickly persuade anyone to eagerly do anything you want,
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Conversation Blunders and How to Avoid Them

Conversation Blunders and How to Avoid Them
By Michael Lee

The major blunders in our conversations are, naturally, the violation of the general principles of communication. Such include talking about topics that are considered taboo, talking behind somebody else's back, and basing stories on exaggerations, or worse, lies.

However, these are not the only blocks we can stumble on when we engage in conversations with other people. There are so-called mechanical blunders, as well, which often result from not thinking seriously about what we are talking about, carelessness, or not keeping a close eye on our own conversation techniques.

Below are some of the most common technical conversation blunders.

Blunder 1: Using pet words regardless of their suitability to the topic or the situation

There are people who call everything they like 'fabulous', 'cute', or 'darling', and call things they don't like 'weird', 'dull', or 'lousy'. There are appropriate words to describe certain things. A building is not cute; a movie cannot be ghastly; a book cannot be weird; a restaurant cannot be a darling. Use words properly. Also, if you are one of these people who use pet words a lot, try to reduce their usage to a minimum. Be aware of the things that are coming out of your mouth. It can be very annoying.

Blunder 2: Using big words inappropriately

You've encountered people like this already - those who like using superfluous terms and phrases (probably to make a good impression). There also are those who seem to enjoy using words like 'basically', 'actually', 'so to speak', 'you know', etc. Get them out of your system. Not only are they unnecessary, they're also time and effort wasting.

Blunder 3: Exaggerating

A lot of us are guilty of this. We tend to introduce our stories with "Let me tell you about the weirdest thing I've ever experienced" or "This is the most amazing thing I've ever seen." While these kinds of statements are subjective and you are entitled to them, you should also think about the other person in the conversation. It might not be so for him or her, and by being so, the momentum you tried to create did not have the effect you were expecting. Get real.

Blunder 4: Getting too personal

You don't need to dish out all the dirt about your life just to get attention at a party. People will naturally listen to you if you make sense, not because you're giving fodder for gossip. Telling too much about yourself is like baring your soul to a group of strangers. It's okay to be real about your feelings, but it's awkward to get too revealing, because you don't know how other people will react to your stories. It could lead you to your undoing and you have no one to blame but yourself.

Blunder 5: Too much slang.

If you're conversing in English, use proper English. Don't bastardize the language and pepper it with slang. You can only use slang if the people around you speak the same way. But if you're in a group with people of diverse backgrounds and interests, slang is not appropriate. Speak in a manner that is understood by all to avoid possible conflict.

Proper style of communication can enhance your relationships, boost self-esteem, and help you achieve lifelong success. On the other hand, continuous use of conversation blunders may hinder you from attaining your goals; so be very careful and aware of every word coming out of your mouth.


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Michael Lee is the author of the highly-acclaimed How To Be An Expert Persuader... In 20 Days or Less. This power-packed course reveals mind-altering persuasion secrets to turbocharge your earnings, win lots of friends, captivate the opposite sex, and make anyone subconsciously like and trust you. If you want to easily and quickly persuade anyone to eagerly do anything you want,
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Saturday, May 24, 2008

How To Say No And Still Be Liked

How To Say No And Still Be Liked
By Michael Lee

We've all been in this situation. Somebody asks us to do him or her a favor and, though there are a gazillion other things we should do first, we find it difficult to turn the other person down because he or she has done us a favor in the past, or is a close friend or a family member. The concept of gratitude prevails and we find ourselves trapped in something we really didn't know why we committed to. We can sometimes be so worried at causing disappointment in other people, often at the expense of our own activities and interests.

Frankly, knowing how to say 'no' requires skill. Others might say that it shouldn't be hard to do. But, let's face it. We live as social beings and acceptance often occupies the number one spot in the list of virtues we want to achieve. Despite this, there are actually ways we can circumvent this difficulty. Subliminal persuasion is one way. Here are five more friendly, pain-free and reasonable ways to say 'no'.

1. Say 'no'; then show what the other person has to do to get a 'yes'

For example: An employee is asking you for a raise but you hesitate to do so because lately he's been skipping work and picking arguments with co-workers. Yet, he looks like he really needs it and has been working for your company for three years now. You want to give him a raise, but his recent behavior is a little disappointing. How do you say 'no'?

Tell him that you can't approve a raise right now, but will do so once you see an improvement in his work ethic. You can say, "I understand your need for a salary increase, but in order for me to implement that, we'll have to work on strengthening your work habits. Now, let's see how we can make that happen…"

2. Make it impersonal.

Make it sound like saying 'no' was a matter of circumstance, not of choice. An example of this is: "We've just paid our mortgage and my daughter is going off to college in two weeks. I won't be able to lend you money."

3. Say 'no' in a way that will make the other person say 'no' to himself or herself

Instead of saying 'no', teach the other person to say 'yes' to what you want. Do this subtly, of course. For instance, your fashion conscious sister wants to get a pink iPod while you want a blue one. You can tell her that while pink is a cute color, it's more difficult to match with her clothes. Once you level with her and link what you want with what interests her, she'll give in and agree with you.

4. Say you want to say 'yes', but…

Like tip number two, make it sound like you had no choice but to turn the other person down. This way, the relationship remains intact and no one gets hurt. Just don't involve other people, like blame your saying 'no' to somebody else, as this could result in conflict and ill feelings.

5. Say it nicely.

You're giving negative news, so you might as well do it nicely. Let the other person down easy to avoid misunderstandings. It's the least you can for the disappointed. People tend to be more accepting of bad news if it's brought in a polite and sympathetic manner.

About the Author:

Michael Lee is the author of the highly-acclaimed How To Be An Expert Persuader... In 20 Days or Less. This power-packed course reveals mind-altering persuasion secrets to turbocharge your earnings, win lots of friends, captivate the opposite sex, and make anyone subconsciously like and trust you. If you want to easily and quickly persuade anyone to eagerly do anything you want,
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